Love, Betrayal, and Resilience: The Making of a Mother Boss

What would you do if you were betrayed during your darkest hour, left to fight for your life alone? Recently, I had the privilege of spending time with an extraordinary executive, a woman who embodies empowerment and resilience. Her story is one of incredible strength and determination, one that challenges us to reflect on our own capacity for perseverance.

From the moment she began sharing her journey, it was clear she was someone special. She encourages her team to think outside the box, challenge the norm, and always prioritize the well-being of their colleagues. Her rise from humble beginnings to becoming a top executive at a major firm is nothing short of inspiring.

As we talked, she expressed deep admiration for the dedication and commitment of Filipinos to their work and family. She wished that other cultures would emulate the Filipino practice of caring for elders and prioritizing family bonds. It’s no wonder the Philippines produces some of the world's best nurses and caregivers—hospitality and kindness are woven into their cultural fabric.

Yet, one aspect of her story stood out: she often spoke about her children's successes but never mentioned her husband. Eventually, she revealed that she was divorced, unable to forget how her husband abandoned her during her darkest times.

During their courtship, she had everything—cars, money, properties, you name it. She lived like a queen, working hard and earning well for herself, while her wealthy boyfriend showered her with gifts. They married and had two children. When her mother passed away, she thought it was the most devastating event in her life. But then she was diagnosed with cancer.

Imagine the emotional toll of such a diagnosis. You're not only grappling with the fear and uncertainty of a life-threatening illness but also the profound loneliness of having no one to lean on. While undergoing chemotherapy, she couldn't burden her grieving father with her struggles. The ultimate betrayal came when she discovered her husband was cheating on her during her treatment. Instead of supporting her, he was with someone else. Alone in her fight against cancer, her thoughts were consumed by her young sons, just three and four years old. Who would care for them if she were gone?

For many mothers, this scenario is all too relatable. The emotional toll of balancing personal suffering with the unyielding responsibility of caring for your children can be overwhelming. It’s a testament to the incredible strength that mothers possess. The fear of leaving her children without a mother drove her to find an inner strength she never knew she had.

One statement she made resonated deeply with me: "The will to live is the strongest force of all; it can defy even the most dreadful illness." Many people might consider ending their suffering, but how many possess the strength to endure for the sake of their loved ones? Mothers, in particular, often display this selfless determination, always putting their children's welfare above their own.

In moments of deep despair, where the weight of the world feels unbearable, it’s the love for their children that propels mothers forward. They find a way to navigate through the pain, the heartbreak, and the overwhelming challenges because they know their children are depending on them. This selfless love is a powerful force, one that can push a mother to defy the odds, to fight battles that seem insurmountable.

Yet, there is an essential aspect that cannot be overlooked: putting love and strength into yourself. As mothers, it's crucial to nurture your own well-being, to fill your own cup so you have something to pour into others, especially your children. Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary. By taking care of yourself, you build the resilience needed to support and care for your children. Your strength becomes their strength, your love their foundation.

Today, her sons are in college, and she is one of the most sought-after executives, admired for her skills and intelligence. She truly embodies the spirit of a Mother Boss, a role model for us all. Her story is a poignant reminder of the strength and resilience that mothers possess, and the extraordinary lengths they will go to ensure their children are cared for and loved.

To every mother facing her own battles, remember that your strength is unparalleled. You are the epitome of resilience, and your love and determination are what make you unstoppable. The journey may be tough, but your will to push forward for your children makes all the difference. And always remember, nurturing your own strength and well-being is the key to having the energy and love to give to others.