When a Mom Experiences Depression: What Happens Next?

As a single mother, I know firsthand the heavy toll depression can take. When it hits, it’s not just sadness—the weight of responsibilities, the fear of failing your children, and the endless push to stay strong because little eyes are watching and little hearts depend on you. So, what happens next?

For many of us, we put on a brave face and condition our minds to keep going, even when we’re breaking inside. But how much can one person bear? How far can a mother go before the cracks show? Society often glorifies a mother’s strength, yet it rarely acknowledges the pain beneath.

Did you know the uterus is one of the strongest muscles in the human body? It symbolizes resilience and power, but does that strength truly mirror the emotional and mental endurance we’re expected to uphold?

Recently, stories from Filipino women have gone viral—stories of betrayal, heartbreak, and sacrifice. One that stuck with me was of a mother who grew up with an alcoholic father. Her own mother, the family’s sole provider, endured years of abuse yet chose forgiveness. She taught her children to respect their father, shielding them from hatred and resentment. Why? Because she didn’t want her children to feel incomplete when asked about their father. She stayed, sacrificed, and endured—all for her children.

And then there’s the story of a Filipina celebrity who moved to the U.S., worked tirelessly to build a life, and eventually earned her green card. She fell in love with a younger man, showering him with love and support, only for him to leave her for someone else. Despite her sacrifices, despite everything she gave, she was left to pick up the pieces.

As mothers, we give so much—to the point of losing ourselves. Society often expects this of us, glorifying sacrifice while turning a blind eye to our struggles. But is this fair? Why must women, especially mothers, bear so much and yet be judged when things fall apart?

I’ll be honest—it’s hard. It’s lonely. And it’s exhausting. But it doesn’t have to be this way. We don’t have to carry the weight alone.

In my journey as a single mother, the most powerful lesson I’ve learned is that connection is the only way to truly get through the darkest moments of depression. At times, it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders—no one sees the struggle behind your smile, the exhaustion behind your actions. But as much as we try to be everything for everyone, it’s only by connecting to ourselves that we can begin to heal.

The first step is seeking professional help. It's okay to ask for support, whether through therapy, counseling, or speaking with a trusted advisor. Seeking help doesn’t make you weak; it shows immense strength in acknowledging that we can’t do everything on our own.

Another key aspect of healing is learning to focus on the things you can control. In a world that often feels chaotic and overwhelming, it’s easy to become consumed by the things outside our power. But when you focus on what you can influence—whether it’s your daily routine, your mindset, or the environment you create at home—you take back control and reclaim a sense of peace.

Spending quality time with your children is also a powerful tool for healing. Kids have a way of making us live in the moment, reminding us of the joy in simple things. Create core memories with them, whether it's a playful afternoon at the park or an evening of storytelling. These moments will become the foundation of your family’s love and connection and anchor you when things feel shaky.

Taking care of your body is just as important for your mental health. Practice meditation—even just a few minutes a day can clear your mind and center your emotions. Exercise is another powerful way to boost your mood and release those precious endorphins that can make a world of difference. Whether it's a brisk walk or a full workout session, moving your body helps release tension and elevate your spirit.

Engage in activities that nurture your soul, like writing and painting, or learn a new skill! These creative outlets help you focus on the things you do best, providing an escape and an expression for all the emotions you carry. Sometimes, it’s through writing or art that we can process our deepest feelings and find clarity.

But above all, focus on yourself. Stop looking to others to fill the void or validate your worth. Only you can save yourself, and that starts by recognizing your own value and taking action to nurture your mind, body, and soul. It’s not about perfection—it’s about progress, taking small steps every day to heal and grow stronger. You are your own hero, and you have everything you need to navigate this journey.

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This year’s theme, CALL TO CONNECT, will feature the nation’s finest experts, professionals, and advocates, offering valuable insights and practical advice on how to balance motherhood with today’s ever-changing demands. From mental health to self-care, from parenting tips to building a supportive network, you’ll leave this convention feeling empowered and inspired.

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As a single mom, I’ve learned that while strength is often celebrated, connection is what truly saves us. It’s time we come together—not just to survive but to thrive. Join us, and let’s remind ourselves that we’re not alone. We are strong, but together, we are unstoppable. - Ma. Sherazade